Hello Rossjr,
First, WELCOME! I'm sorry your first post had to deal with a problem!
Which kit is it for? Also, I have found that the glue contained in any of the kits is usually enough for the first couple of steps, and then you are off to the hardware store anyway. I use a product called "Weldbond" that works great, dries quickly, and is waterbased.
To address future replacement parts, give the 800 number a call, and they will get replacement parts out ASAP. Fortunately, there is VERY little need usually to call. I suspect your ruptured glue bottle was a glitch.
If you do not get squared away, shoot me a PM with your details, and I'll get you taken care of.
To address your second question, the directions always have a photo of the parts included in that step. Use this as a guide to ID your parts. (In the Victory, the various decks can get a bit confusing..)Most of the wooden parts have a laser etched number on them, with the exception of the very small, or detail parts.
Tired, Old, and Cranky!